Jacquie Ellis

That’s right! Your people-pleasing is sucking the life out of you. The worst problem with this is you may not realize it until you are so ingrained in the people-pleasing habits that your life isn’t the one you wanted. It isn’t the life you dreamed about. It’s someone else’s. You might be thinking this is a bit of an extreme statement. Is it? Let’s dig into the typical people-pleasing habits for those of us that are choosing or have chosen to live this way. Then I’ll show you how to start shifting that mindset so you can start managing your fears, worries, and anxiety, so you can start creating a…

Who here is a perfectionist? Who knows a perfectionist? We are everywhere and most of us are high-functioning-anxiety-filled-machines that may crash or implode at some point. It’s not healthy and definitely harmful to our own personal growth. My last article talked about how to handle uncertainty in life and how that links to anxiety. Today learn how perfectionism feeds anxiety and will give you some helpful hints for shifting that harmful mindset cycle. I’ve known for a while that I tend to have some perfectionist traits. However, I wouldn’t consider myself a perfect perfectionist (does that exist? I don’t know…). At any point in time, you will see me with…

Life is uncertain, that is the one thing we can count on. We may not like it but it’s a reality, even if we are killing ourselves trying to control everything possible. I was a self-proclaimed control freak and am now a recovering control freak. I personally understand the feelings that the word “uncertainty” triggers. This is why I’m going to give you some tools to learn how to handle uncertainty in life. For years I fed into the mindset that I needed to plan everything, and think about every possible risk or outcome that might happen. After all, that was part of my job when I was designing processes…

I was stuck in the mad rush of life. Work, pick up kids, make dinner (or go through the drive-thru), take the kids to activities, home to prepare for the next day…rinse, repeat. I was drained, grouchy, and stressed. Life sucked for me and my family because I couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t do it all. Let me tell you how practicing mindfulness changed my life. After all, I had it all: a loving husband, kids (two at the time and now three), a home, a career I loved. Life should be good, right? I know, first-world problems. The problem was I wasn’t happy and my family was miserable…

Do you have that negative internal voice telling you that you aren’t enough? Telling you that what you offer isn’t unique? That others have more to offer than little old you? STOP. RIGHT. NOW. You are unique. Everyone is unique. That is precisely why this world we live in is so interesting. Here’s the honest truth. Are you ready to hear this truth? You can change this mindset when self-doubt blocks your dreams. The bottom line: Self-doubt is a barrier and it can seriously mess with your mindset. Seriously! Self-doubt is a monster of a barrier….when you let it. I’ve been there. After I left a job where my boss…

Why do we minimize how we are feeling and then convince ourselves that we either shouldn’t feel that way or the way we are feeling isn’t significant? NEWS FLASH! YOU are human and humans feel! However when we ignore our feelings that is when life can get chaotic. Learning how to stop minimizing your feelings may just be the biggest key to changing your mindset and start creating a life you love. The truth is we all minimize our feelings one way or another. Either we compare our personal experiences with what others are going through or we convince ourselves that feeling was “silly” and doesn’t need any attention. Nothing…