This topic, while a common occurrence in our daily lives, and is a sensitive topic for many. Getting annoyed with people is common. Being irritated with decisions others make happens to most of us. When it does happen, we ultimately have a choice, do we spend our days in negative spirals constantly noticing these annoyances? Or do we get curious about it? When someone annoys you what do you do? Learn how to uplevel your choices and finally stop the rollercoaster of emotions you feel when someone annoys you. I recently read a meme on social media and it read: “You cannot change someone who does NOT see an issue…

News flash: comparison kills relationships. The truth is many of us, including me, have a tendency to look over at other people and wish we had what they had. We look at their social media and want perfection too. But is it perfect? It might be for them, but what works for them might not work for you. I’m going to get really clear about the dangers of comparing your relationship to others, and then we can look at what to do instead. Ready? My husband and I have been married for 27 years this month. There have been good times, great times, and times I felt like it was…

Are you struggling with your relationship with your teen? You try and try but nothing seems to work? Does it feel like you are banging your head against the wall when you try and talk with them? There are many parents in this exact situation. You aren’t alone. If you are wondering how to start bridging the relationship gap with your teen, you are in the right place. I’m going to explain how to get started and lead you to some valuable resources you can use to keep it going. Parenting a teenager is completely different than raising a young child. We found this to be extremely true as we…

Life is flipped upside down for many of us around the world right now and it perfectly natural to feel all the emotional feelings you are feeling. We are all on our own journey to try and figure out our new normal; what it looks like and how we fit into it. For our home, the transition wasn’t as painful as I thought it would be, and when I looked at why one of the reasons pointed to our Hygge lifestyle. This is how Hygge helped us transition into our new normal. You may be feeling overwhelmed with everything you’re trying to balance right now. The work, the family needs,…

That’s right! Your people-pleasing is sucking the life out of you. The worst problem with this is you may not realize it until you are so ingrained in the people-pleasing habits that your life isn’t the one you wanted. It isn’t the life you dreamed about. It’s someone else’s. You might be thinking this is a bit of an extreme statement. Is it? Let’s dig into the typical people-pleasing habits for those of us that are choosing or have chosen to live this way. Then I’ll show you how to start shifting that mindset so you can start managing your fears, worries, and anxiety, so you can start creating a…

Who here is a perfectionist? Who knows a perfectionist? We are everywhere and most of us are high-functioning-anxiety-filled-machines that may crash or implode at some point. It’s not healthy and definitely harmful to our own personal growth. My last article talked about how to handle uncertainty in life and how that links to anxiety. Today learn how perfectionism feeds anxiety and will give you some helpful hints for shifting that harmful mindset cycle. I’ve known for a while that I tend to have some perfectionist traits. However, I wouldn’t consider myself a perfect perfectionist (does that exist? I don’t know…). At any point in time, you will see me with…

Life is uncertain, that is the one thing we can count on. We may not like it but it’s a reality, even if we are killing ourselves trying to control everything possible. I was a self-proclaimed control freak and am now a recovering control freak. I personally understand the feelings that the word “uncertainty” triggers. This is why I’m going to give you some tools to learn how to handle uncertainty in life. For years I fed into the mindset that I needed to plan everything, and think about every possible risk or outcome that might happen. After all, that was part of my job when I was designing processes…

Why do we minimize how we are feeling and then convince ourselves that we either shouldn’t feel that way or the way we are feeling isn’t significant? NEWS FLASH! YOU are human and humans feel! However when we ignore our feelings that is when life can get chaotic. Learning how to stop minimizing your feelings may just be the biggest key to changing your mindset and start creating a life you love. The truth is we all minimize our feelings one way or another. Either we compare our personal experiences with what others are going through or we convince ourselves that feeling was “silly” and doesn’t need any attention. Nothing…

Times have changed since my youth. Some for the better and others not so much. I woke up recently stuck with the phrase, “children should be seen and not heard”, running through my head. I heard this a few times growing up. We chose a different route when raising our kids. We are raising kids to have a voice of their own while still being respectful. The parenting style that I grew up with, was not the parenting style that I intentionally chose to follow. While I love my parents deeply, I also know the thoughts I struggled with growing up. Ones that I never expressed openly, but ones that…

Life is a challenge and you feel like you’ve failed yourself. Things need to change but you don’t know how to create healthy habits that will finally stick. Do you find yourself saying, “Why should I keep trying when I’ll just fail again?”. I want you to stop and look at how you are feeling when you say this to yourself. How does this make you feel?  Why are you beating yourself down? Would you do this to those you love? Feel all of these feelings and remember them. As you practice this first method you will start to be more mindful of how you talk to yourself and how…