Building Relationships in Hygge Life

The topic of building relationships in Hygge life is one of the building blocks to having a Hygge lifestyle. But if life is chaos, how do you make it happen? What if you are an introvert, like me that has zero energy at the end of the workday and can’t bring yourself to be around extra people?

How do you nurture relationships with your kids and spouse when you are so drained at the end of the day, everything they do irritates you and you find yourself yelling at the kids all the time?

I know you don’t hate your kids or your spouse. Having friends when you are a busy working mom is difficult. I gain friendships through work and meet the moms at my kids’ activities. That’s it. I don’t typically make time in my week to hang out with other people, except for my ladies night out that I had one Friday a month. That was bliss!

If you are following my 30 days of Hygge challenge, I’m currently on Day 6 and the assignment was to connect with someone special. It was about making the decision to make time for them. It seems so simple, but then the busy mom’s brain starts going on and on about “all the things” that need to get done.

The bottom line.

You are exhausted. Right?

I get it.

How can we make it possible to do this one simple task?

Join the Hygge Challenge

In the article, What is Hygge, I state that the Danes have mastered the balance between personal and public life through Hygge. They make decisions daily to connect with people special to them, in an authentic way. This means simple get-togethers that are comfortable and more about nurturing relationships than creating an event to remember.

To do this, you don’t need to invite groups of people to your home. It can be a single friend or a couple over for a game night. For my night with someone special, I spent the night at home with my family. This is a regular occurrence for us since we stopped over-scheduling the family.

Years ago we made an intentional parenting decision to spend time with our kids and with each other, just like this. We make the time to do something we all love together. We will either play a game together or watch something on our DVR or Netflix.

The DVR has provided lots of great moments connecting with each other. We don’t need to be at home while our favorites are being recorded but we can watch them together. In the end, we are bonding over a joke or a strategy used for whatever reality show we are watching.

Some people think television is a waste of time. Not us. We use it as a source of pure entertainment. A way to bond with the kids, discussions about life, and we use it as a way to connect in our marriage. Common interests create powerful connections within a relationship.

I firmly believe that if you have common interests with your kids, they will feel more comfortable coming to you about any issue they might be struggling with at the moment. Learning how to connect with your teen is possible with Hygge life.

This works for marriage relationships as well. If you have common interests then you can create a lasting bond with each other. Sometimes that’s not easy but with some creative thinking, you can find fun in your marriage again. When you take the time to find those common interests, the marriage isn’t just about parenting your kids or paying the bills. It becomes more about your relationship together and building the life you want together.

The Challenge of a Chaotic Life

The challenge of a chaotic life is having the strength to say no to stuff that doesn’t matter at that moment. It is knowing how to balance between “all of the things” and the things that matter most.

Will having dust on the mantle or toys on the floor out-weight the importance of playing that game with your family? Is it possible we could spend time with our spouse tonight instead of wasting time on social media?

Hygge life encourages face-t0-face connections with those we love. Simple, and authentic connections where we aren’t pretending life is great all of the time. We are being real in these relationships and have the freedom to be ourselves with each other.

Will you join me in this challenge to do this with your family or with some friends? Spend time together. No fancy dinners. No expectations. Just nurture a true, authentic connection with each other. Find those common interests and watch your relationships grow stronger.