Honoring Your Love within a Hand in Marriage

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I’ve been married for 33 years, as of last month. Love within a marriage is a choice, just as saying “yes” to the proposal and the “I do” at the alter. Love requires choice. If you let it slide parts of yourself go with that. If you choose to not look at your chosen love to see them, you won’t. Honoring your love within a hand in marriage is knowing the love language you speak and that which you don’t need to.

There are some struggling to get out of their head. Some whom jump into mother or fatherhood shortly after work, without taking the time to remember whom they are between their work persona and home persona.

The space is important. Space voids the disruption to what is lost when you take the time to discover what is. This space is a place of tranquility, peace, grace, compassion and love.

Honoring Your Love within a Hand in Marriage

Honoring your love within a hand in marriage is not comparing your relationship with anyone else, including the movies. Comparison kills relationships. Your love language for life may vary within stages or season of life, but it also may vary within how you respond to different people.

Love language is how you perceive love in various aspects of living.

Your love language from one child to another may be different, especially if you are honoring whom they are as individuals.

Your love language for friends will vary depending upon experiences shared and where each are within life.

As time goes on, and your marriage becomes volumes of books of your life together; 

shelves filled as your love language changes, blossoms, and creates fields of blessings discovered and yet to come.

The times you share together, apart and not, create a story for your life. How you respond and build a trust in this life together is designed into the love language for your life. When you can look at your chosen love and see who fell in love with, even amongst the changes within their journey, you recognize the love language from the beginning.

Getting out of your head isn’t easy unless you allow space to do so. Honoring your love within a hand in marriage, is telling yourself and your chosen love to create space for wellbeing. If this means date days with yourself or with your spouse while the kids are at daycare, so be it. Knowing how to find that rock of foundation under the pressures of life is necessary to get out of your head. You can’t deplete yourself, stripping your love of yourself, just to make a life. This is choosing to earn life, through impoverished ways of living.

I’ve lived this, and lost myself. I’ve had moments where Guidance had shown me roommate energy between my husband and myself. This was lightning to wake me up and create change. Love is a choice. I was in my head and desert life was within how I parented, loved myself, and let the whirlwind of life take over. The rest propagated and change was needed.

We needed to find our love language and intentionally choose to honor each other within various stages and seasons of life.

Being present and seeing your chosen love for whom they are is honoring your love within a hand in marriage.

Seeing love within them, even if they can’t see it themselves is honoring your love within a hand in marriage.

Remembering your marriage commitment when you know love in any moment is honoring your love within a hand in marriage.

Your space within your home is your canvas to create a painting of love and for love.

Honoring your journey in love, is honoring yourself.

Honoring your journey within love, is honoring another.

The flow and fluidity of trust you build by doing so, is honoring your love within a hand in marriage.

Take the time to remember your love language. Take the time to remember your chosen love’s love language. How do they flow and trust? How do they communicate within the love of the past and the love now? Is there a difference within seasons of the calendar, and of life?