The Harm Spankings Cause
Society has deep generational roots with regards to spankings, but the harm spankings cause is far deeper than one may consider. There are many views upon spanking, and many may have felt they worked their way through the harm they went through. Still some may have experienced and minimized what they went through because of the acceptance within society at the time.
When spankings are considered not to be abuse, it becomes a masking for the brain as the person tries to love the parents or mentors that did such. It is a way for you to reason the abuse within a lesson that you felt was needed afterwards, but it is the reaction to such abusive moments where the reasoning for the continued slippery slope most find themselves within for personal growth.
I lived within this energy both as child of such abuse and as a young parent that hadn’t broken free of that generational energy. I found my way out of it in various ways. The first as a young parent desperately seeking a way not to fall into the depth of the abuse my mother had been in towards me. I didn’t want to be that way. I couldn’t bear the look from my children as I found that energy rising up; while I desperately tried to push it further down.
It broke me many times and in many ways. I finally found my way to walk away from the slippery slope and I talk about the path I found that worked for me and my children. It is about knowing the rising energy within and finding a way to allow yourself to express a need for space, even as a parent. 5 ways to stop yelling at the kids was a blessing for my family when the kids were young and for me as I began to work through my own generational energy from my childhood, and generations prior.
There is more to this than one may realize which is why I’m talking about this more today.
The Harm Spankings Cause
The harm spankings cause is one that impacts the brain, in ways many may not consider. When the societal acceptance of a spanking is considered not abuse, the brain is minimizing the impacts of what that experience is, under the reasoning that love was within that action. There are extremes to what is and one that is a journey to move into a higher form of love for oneself and another.
The spankings in reasoning could be a “love tap” or could it be hard enough to redden the skin. They also could result into a slippery slope of a more accepted version of abuse whereby an object or fist was used to punish another. For many that experienced the latter, they often reason with themselves that the abuse was not; reason that it was punishment but it isn’t and the explanation is below.
Which ever spectrum you find yourself or another, please have compassion and grace for your journey and theirs. This generational acceptance of a spanking for teaching a lesson is one from a misunderstanding in biblical times. I talk about this within the Rod of Lessons article.
When one has potentially been within, or is finding themselves bouncing off generational energy as the reasoning for a spanking, please know it is worthy of exploring how to stop doing so.
The harm spankings cause:
- sensitivity to anger leading to patterns of worry, anxiety, bullying, over responsibility, perfectionism, safety exits in patterns or habits, and accepting blame
- a justification pattern where one blames another
- the stuffing of emotions one is not able to face because the punishments of a spanking become inward in a shame reaction to blame accepted
- a mask for the brain may form to accept the spankings as a form of love and not abuse
- the above leads to acting out when a lack of love is felt, this is due to the spirit responding to abandonment that is realized when any abusive action by a mentor or parent is experienced
- lack of worthiness may lead to financial ups and downs, relationship struggles, legal issues, even being un-homed
- sensitivity to doubt leading to over compensating due to a lack of worthiness: conversations over explained, acts of kindness that over extend budgets, acts of kindness that erode time with those that are closer to the heart, and taking upon a heavy responsibility that may burden you and erode time with those that are closer to the heart, create isolation patterns within your life
The Slippery Slope
The slippery slope is one that is more than a spanking building to a reasoning beating of another. The slippery slope is more than recognizing the abuse and not knowing the fullness of the impacts you’ve went through before reacting in judgment towards another, in any way. According to Ascended Master Saint Germain, 90.6% of the people around the world having been spanked, react in judgment from patterns stemming from such.
When one lets the anger dictate the lesson, the energy may be rising up within you from an avoidance of facing emotions that were stuffed down for some reason. This may be a pattern seen from childhood or one developed living life through various experiences where struggle was. How far the anger dictates depends upon how often you stuff your emotions in avoidance. For those that get good at doing so, they may find themselves pulled into anger easier and feel out of control.
For those that may find themselves trying to break free of generational patterns and not wanting to feel out of control, the solution may be to control various aspects of their life. This feeds a worry within that stems from the abandonment, which is based upon avoidance of what is truly a mask of minimization for an abuse within your life. It is judgment within trying to be better without facing the root of what was. It is a natural redirect that happens and is explained further below.
Abandonment feelings from within are realized through a feeling of being lost somehow, how the person reacts to this feeling is one that is developed through various experiences and reactions to those experiences. When one reasons with abuse, of any form being minimized, a mask from the spirit of abandonment may form within the spiritual energy bodies where it becomes natural to avoid or minimize events or perceptions of such. This could be a redirection of how one may perceive what’s needed within their life. When this happens one may blame themselves or another in a misdirect, for reasoning of feeling the way they are, when this may not be the root that is needed for growth, nor healing. If this is a solid belief then the person may reject guidance that comes in, not realizing the depth and vastness the patterns around being spanked may have influenced their life.
The Path Forward
The healing of such a mask is one that may have the brain resist the fullness of a healing based upon years of confusion as to what may have been missed through redirection. When this happens the person may react to others and feel judge in many different ways. If explored the abuse or victim message may arise or be an accepted message for a reason. I am reminding you in love that you are held, by the Lord God and His Guidance chosen for you, through the vastness of what became due to the patterns of what was stemming from spankings.
“Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him. With long life will I satisfy him and show him my salvation.” Psalm 91:14-16
If you find your brain going through the many moments of harmful events in spankings or beatings; wanting to blame God also please know there may be many moments whereby an angel came by you to help you through those moments in different ways. I recently discovered an event from my childhood had me saved from a beating when Archangel Gabrielle come to me and told me in spirit to trust myself to run from my mother who was reaching for an object to beat me with. I knew the moment and the path. If you feel empowered to explore if your support was much the same in any way, please do receive that Light in Love.
The pathway for healing harm spankings caused, is a journey of exploration into many habits and patterns both in reacting within abuse, reacting to abuse, or reacting trying not to abuse. The journey is one that heal value, values, and worthiness within your life.
You can look within if you choose to shift your life in wonderous ways, by looking for ways to accept healing and growth opportunities in relation to abandonment in various ways within your life.
For each moment the mask will heal even more. For me I chose to work upon my own worthiness messages that kept me in a loop. For you this could look different but the list above will help you if you trust what may come to mind as a reminder for what is needed to heal within your life. The other way you may choose to walk your journey forward is to receive healing or coaching by booking with me.
