Designing the Family

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When designing the family one intentionally chooses to try and blend their upbringing with their chosen love’s. It is a goal setting choice to honor yourself and another with a flow of traditions, but also ways of being you intentionally choose not to continue. It could begin with the two of you, but may include children also depending upon how life became.

When life happens at home, it can flow into work or other areas, often unintentionally. It may not look this way, but the expansion of unrecognized connections, needing an upgrade in belief or emotional support, often can blur the boundaries of life.

Designing the Family

Reactions to life outside the family unit may seem clear, but if you have a home life where balance is held within the safety and comfort of love within every season of life, the flow of such within whom you are will be. Knowing whom you are within each season, and the growth of whom you are within the seasons starts at home. This is where your heart is with love, value, and worth.

Designing the family goals, intentions, energy of support within the home can all have a fluid flow of love when you allow yourself to explore without perfectionism getting in the way.

When there is two the flow and ease becomes, as the family grows this may be lost if the intention is lost in nurturing the relationship of the marriage. Parent relationships are different than marriage relationships. Although you may call yourself the parent and see your chosen love as the other parent it is not an identity holding the marriage nurturing love. This may look different to those whom have a marriage within a blended family, but it doesn’t need to. You may have begun your marriage as parents, but the the individuals held within the love of your hand in marriage is worthy of honoring in love also.

When life is busy we as parents forget about the marriage and focus upon what the home needs and the family needs, specifically the children. The roommate feel can creep into the love, diminishing the love within the marriage. Love is a choice. The key to seeing the blurred edges of relationship intentions is knowing the intentional value and values you are desiring to nurture within the creative ways you would like to design within the family.

Honoring the Family

To honor the family is to view each person within their own unique way of being. Leaning upon your chosen love is part of a hand in marriage, but are you leaning upon them out of a lack within you felt, or for a flow of whom they are within your hand in marriage? There is a difference.

The same can be explored for each child and how you view them within your design of the family. As parents it is easy to believe children are a blend of the parents, but are they? There may be genetics, but are the personalities exact in nature or can they be the unique individuals? If there is a dynamic between parent and child in resistance to whom they are trying to grow into, as the parent can you acknowledge any restrictions you may have in allowing the child to expand beyond the blend in genetics?

The space being confined in not allowing the stretch into whom a person can become can feel restraining, limiting, stifling, and suppressing in how to move forward. Rebellion and resistance is a natural response being nurtured in these experiences. Energetically the pattern held within muscle memory can build an expectation of needing this to know there is a timed need to move forward. As parents I’m sure we don’t want this held when designing the family, so to shift into such one must intentionally choose to walk an abundance journey where the muscle memory becomes more fluid in design with not waiting for this feeling to grow and stretch into the next chapter or season of life.

Faith within the Family

Faith when standing and walking upon a rock foundation is trusting in the Love and Light Guidance has for you. It is trusting in how to navigate life with more ease and flow. Designing the family to have faith designed intentions within the family, is knowing whom each person is within the family, and trusting in their value and worth, being part of the family.

To have faith within your child and your chosen love for your hand in marriage, is to see them for whom they are in love, value and worth. It is expressing this and just showing you see this within them through your own unique love language.

The storms of life can be difficult to navigate without faith. Faith in yourself, in your spouse, in your children, and in others begins by nurturing faith within yourself. When you do this the need to be within perfection isn’t, you just flow within a faith and trust. This is being a vessel of Love and Light within faith also.

Shield of Faith

The shields of life are often to protect or to help one create the space they need to nurture their faith in themselves and life once more. We have the ability to hold this shield not within the hand God gave it to us, because He knew we were worthy of holding it, but to know and integrate the aspects of faith within us through forged love, faith, trust, and peaceful understanding.

It isn’t about expected a battle, but to know we have shelter and the ability to create the space needed to reflect within a moment of need. The practice of this is nurturing faith. When you nurture this as a family within the individual ways of being, you naturally notice the safe space a home is designed to hold for everyone whom may find or seek a sense of peace and refuge when in need.

Faith is held within a fine structure constant available for your life, this is the strength held within the Guidance of support; the quietness and trust knowing we can lean upon Love and Light Guidance to get us through the storm and to learn how to navigate life so we aren’t caught in the horrible ones. Dancing in the rain is not the same as trying to brace your self in a death grip within a tornado.

The bee is an example in nature where it looks to do the impossible. According to scientists it shouldn’t be able to fly, but it can and does. The waggle dance a bee does is one where the bees within the hive dance and flow around each other with ease. This is guidance by giving the guidance in direction and then there is a region of movement allowed to ensure working together is honored. This is no different than the basket of figs analogy.

If guidance can help the bee do the impossible and work together in flow, why not trust the seemingly impossible for the family dynamic and flow together?

The Steps to Consider

We are designed to naturally follow the Laws of the Universe via Guidance. When we are choosing to flow within the manifestation for abundance designed to honor family we are choosing to say, there are paths designed within Love and Light and I am willing to walk upon them for my family and myself.

Next, is a natural path choice where you acknowledge the moments you needed help and help was there for growth and to calm the storms of life. When you do this, you get to celebrate the abundance you didn’t necessarily choose to acknowledge at the time; you get to see you had faith.

Learn, do, be.

Repeat and nurture faith.

In the article Nurturing Worthiness for Love, I talk about reaching for worthiness, wisdom, and understanding in relation to the physical body. As you hold out your hand to say I need held, you are acknowledging you know you are worthy of receiving such. The wisdom is acknowledge and through intentional understanding the weight felt upon the shoulders is lifted. This is seeking truth and nurturing the faith you have in yourself to know truth.

Turn my heart towards statutes and not toward selfish gain. Turn my eyes away from worthless things; preserve my life according to your word. Psalm 119:36-37

Intentionally choosing to follow the Guidance from the Laws of the Universe for the family is choosing to point your free will choice towards guidance and say yes to help. Your heart is known and nurturing love within a family is inherent within the design of such. Balance is within this path of faith, after all God created the Law of Balance within your heart also. Trust you will know the path for your family as you walk together.

Nurturing family within a design for love is to not diminish the person. It is to love the individual self without overshadowing another, and without expressing superiority over one another. Parenting within a coaching type leadership doesn’t need a heavy fist nor hand. It isn’t about crushing the evil within the child under your heal either. It is about honoring the leadership within your Guidance nurturing grace and care for your family.

Embracing the Iota

Faith within designing the family is nurtured further when you learn to navigate the mapped boundaries of life through Guidance.

May your unfailing love be my comfort, according to your promise to your servant. Let your compassion come to me that I may live, for your law is my delight. Psalm 119:76-77

Within logic this is the definite descriptor to Guidance within the Laws of the Universe. We are bringing nourishment to the Lord, when we lean upon His Guidance; this is being His servant. It is our tithe back to Him.

When we choose to embrace the iotas in life, the small seemingly insignificant things, we are holding out our hand to receive from the Lord’s open hand a tithe offering to help us in those moments.

Expressing Yourself within Safety

Nurturing faith requires a safe space to be, and as this grows the places where safety is felt grow outward but also naturally become within whom you are. When there is something hidden in life, needing to be known, health is prioritized in those moments. This is not only actions, but beliefs and emotions. Being able to express them knowing there is nourishment in doing so, is operating within faith.

Honoring Self and Family

Facing fear, when wanting to nurture faith within yourself and your family, is choosing to find a different angle of attack on how you are managing life as you had. It is about looking at what didn’t work and why.

Are you measuring the value and worth of yourself and others or noticing it and valuing this knowledge as is?

Are you choosing to stay the same out of fear?

Are you redirecting your intentions out of fear?

On the surface, was it working?

What tithe offering for a love blessing could you recognize as nourishment within life?

Is this a heart to heart conversation?

Noticing a smile, or laugh?

Choosing to dream and have the conversations around the dreams without definitive plans set in stone?

Are your expectations such where there is a likelihood of something existing the way it had before?

Do you expect responses and love to be returned exactly as your own written internal policy?

How does this impede the uniqueness of another’s love language?

What Guidance tithe offering back to you, can help you embrace new ideas for your life within your family?

Are you willing to stretch into new ways and then flow without the resistance?

Do you allow a maximum potential including the ease and flow of others adopting change within their own seasons of life also?

How can you shift your previous misdirect of received Guidance to be more exact, honoring timing and direction?

Inclusion Mapping and Peaceful Changes

Inclusion mapping is choosing a movement within space with a higher perspective. Find your comfort in safety knowing you have received direction for how to breakdown what may not be functioning within faith, knowing you are designing the family to nurture faith even more. Ideas are valued.

What structural changes improve the life span of love within the family?

What possibilities are held within a loving potential for your family?

Are you willing to turn your hand up to receive a tithe of worthiness from the Lord as you are designing the family, with more love?

Designing the family starts with a need and desire to come together within a hand in marriage, and choose love. To do this we believe we need to bring and meld together our past to create a future. What if we let that be and see what can be designed from Guidance that knows what’s held within potential? What if we choose to honor that potential and let it work within our life? This is nurturing faith, love, happiness, and abundance journeys in balance that is heart-centered. When you are out of balance outside the home, are you able to find balance concerning this while in the safety of your home? What changes can you do to try and honor the faith you have in yourself and your family, with regards to such?